Memoirs, Michael Jeffries, heartbreak of a family-a parent’s introduction to parental alienation, describes his transition from beloved father, exiled to the provider. It is a painful but compelling reading. The book is part ‘ Dear Diary ‘, the therapist/patient relationship and part academic treatise on neurosis and personality disorders that led to living hell that Jeffries skilled and in some ways is still alive.
Like a pointillist painting, where further back you go, the clearer the picture becomes parental alienation, is a series of seemingly innocent more doublings, or concerns for the welfare of the child; It’s just when the points are connected that you see the full picture.
Jeffries went by the American dream of loving wife and two boys to parental alienation’s nightmare, which is a situation where one parent, usually the mother, works actively to destroy the relationship between the other parent and the child. The son at the same time loving, was turned against him by an ex-wife whose fears of abandonment and insecurity destroyed the relationship between father and son.
When Jeffries decided it was time to move on from his marriage, he unknowingly tripped a trigger wire for emotional imbalance of his ex-wife, which led to recording their youngest son in his psychosis. Started with his 11-year-old boy sleeping in his bed, and continued to the point that the parent-child relationship has been strained to the breaking point.
In agonizing detail, Jeffries defines the progression of his son’s youth lover conversion to a teenager emotionally exhausted that simply cannot tolerate the pain during contact with the father. In unusually clear language, Jeffries explains the transformation of his son and the tactics used by his ex-wife to create transformation.
Details of seemingly harmless actions of a parent worried, Jeffries is able to connect the dots of how a mother who turned her son against his father. Paints a picture of powerlessness of the court system to help him, based on the inherent bias of the courts in favour of the mother, and the difficulty in attacking what appears to be nothing more than a mother’s concern for the welfare of his children. Nobody wants to believe a mother could be so devious, tricky and dangerous, but it can be.
This book is an excellent exploration into the twistedness of “Wonderland” is the parental alienation. The lies, the deceptions and volcanic eruptions of anger for apparently minor transgressions, these are the battles in a war without winners.
For every man who is enduring this hell, to every lawyer who fights this form of child abuse and for all practitioners who have to treat children damaged side, this book should be a resource before in their armament.
In clear, concise language, Dr. Joel Davies and Michael Jeffries explain both the real effects and underlying motivations for subconscious this form of abuse.
These cases are difficult to prove, because on the surface, everything looks essentially normal. It is only when you connect the dots, you can see the whole picture. As stories as Jeffrie are made public, will increase awareness, and hopefully, fathers and their children can be reunited, or better yet, never separated.